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I'm a 48 year old gal and I'm always ready to go with DH. He's more of a once/week guy I'm more of a twice. Most  times  with the man is pretty memorable. It's not like it's porno sex each time but it's sweet and fun. He's pretty good at it.
All gals definitely don't need difficult 'revving up' scenarios.[/quote]

Have you and your DH been married for awhile? Did you have this dynamic through your 30s?

I only ask because I've seen a couple of themes around these parts:

1. Divorced women who get into a new relationship in their 40s and find that sexual spark again. 
2. Women who were weighed down by insecurities and child-rearing through their 30s who found themselves sexually through a combination of self-confidence, kids growing up, and hormonal shifts.

Just wondered if any of that applied or if you and your husband had always had a pretty good sexual dynamic.

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Married a long time now. 23 years plus 5 years of being friends 1 year of dating.

We didn't always have that sexual dynamic. He actually gets stressed about stuff and would not want much sex. 
For a while there I realized that we were only having frequent sex on vacations where there was no work stress (he told me that too).
What has been a constant is that he is always been good at it. So, when I do get it I'm pretty happy.
It has taken some convincing to get him on board to have sex more often but now he is and it's a nice life.
I feel connected and happy (and I will do whatever...). 
I think one of his friends might have tipped him off that hey sex actually helps with stress because I noticed an increased willingness
these past few years. 
What I don't do is resent any prior droughts or bad moods on his part. I'm just happy for what we do have.
I don't know - he's a pretty good looking healthy guy (stress not withstanding) too so it's a pretty easy sale.

A long marriage has many ups and downs I suppose. It can be worth sticking around for the ups.

I do have girlfriends whose husbands text  them to 'be naked when they get home' and they are and I don't hear complaints.
It helps to talk about these things and stay connected I think (gal friends talk a lot about specifics). [/quote]

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