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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again.

She just called me sobbing about him.  He apparently called her again and said that there's been some "hold up" in getting the lease to his new apartment but that he still loves her and wants her.  I didn't say anything new.  I just said that I was sad for her and that this guy is obviously a pretty heinous person and that I hope that she doesn't follow his lead in continuing the relationship.  She said that she wants to continue with him because, even if he doesn't leave his wife, she can't imagine a life without him.  Again, I can't imagine how someone can get this wrapped up in someone in a one month period, particularly when they didn't spend all that much time together since he had a family that he had to see.  It makes me really sad that she has chosen, yet again, to think only of herself and, even in so doing, she has managed to put herself in a shitty situation.

I give up.  We'll see what happens.  Like some PPs have said, it's only been a short while.  I did, however, tell her that I can't condone her behavior if she continues to have contact with him and I did ask her to please not involve me in it anymore.  She may be young and she may have to make her own mistakes, but I don't have to know about it any more than I already do. [/quote]
We get it, you hate your sister, she is a selfish bitch and you are way better than her. Tell her as much so she can find an actual friend to confide in and lean on during this rough time.[/quote]

During this rough time?  Seriously?  She's 21-25 years old and has been dating someone for 1 month.  Rough time?  I think the woman who just found out that her husband who is the father of her child is going through a rough time.

Who are all of you women who are posting about how heartbroken the sister is?  What delicate flowers you are.  Do you have no spine?  Have you never been through an actual rough time that you think that a one month relationship ending is a rough emotional time?  Do you think so little of yourselves that you would let a one month relationship with a lying shit ruin you?  Holy crap.  Get a grip.[/quote]

16:13 here: OP, tell your sister to stop calling about this guy. You have kids to raise. Newsflash: she's calling you, your mom/dad/siblings, all her friends, the guy himself, and if she has any computer skills and no ability to step back and block the guy eventually his wife and coworkers.

Please disengage. Tell her you have to focus on your DH and kids. You told her how you feel about this. She's still fixated. Refer her to all the other people she's already calling, maybe a therapist, and a couple of singles sites like OKCupid.

Then tell her to leave you out of it. She's doing this for attention now. If she continues with the guy, it's for drama's sake.

It's her ship to sink now. Don't get sucked into the whirlpool.

Doubt me? Ask DH! He doesn't want to hear it any more; neither do you.

No go help your kids with their homework. They need you more than your sister does -- and they are more available to listen.  Given a choice, I'd rather go to a PTA meeting than be sucked into OW drama, wouldn't you? Then tell her so and tell her to call somebody else with this problem.

Focus on your own life. [/quote]

OP again.

Thanks.  I said that I give up in my previous post and I meant it.  Nothing I can do about it now anyway.  I feel sad for my sister for not having the confidence in herself to walk away from this and know that there will be someone better out there and I feel sad for this wife wherever she is that she is hurting, but feeling sad about something out of my control is a waste of time and effort.

Going to a soccer game tonight :)  [/quote]

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