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[quote=Anonymous]Op, you have no idea how the ring ended up with the aunt.  I've had a lot of experiences with family deaths, and each one has brought out the crazies in otherwise normal people and also made people make decisions I never would have predicted.  The surviving spouses give stuff away to people you didn't expect, or sell it and give nothing to no one, or people steal stuff or fight about it.

There are several possibilities of how she got the ring.  Just because the "plan" had been to bury the grandmother with it doesn't mean at the last minute the plan didn't change.  Your aunt was the daughter of the grandmother, perhaps she approached her own father and said "dad, I would really love grandmother's ring, it's the only thing of hers I would love, can I have it?"  The aunt doesn't need your mothers permissions, etc.  Maybe she did pry the ring off your dead grandmother's hand when no one was looking, but I doubt it.

The automatic response to interprete others' intent as bad and selfish is a bad habit to have.  Your grandmother is dead.  The ring has been made.  Your cousin is engaged.  The past is the past.  Life is not fair. Not everything is 50/50. You can tell your mom but it sounds like your family gets worked up over small things and fails to see the bigger picture.  Get excited for your cousin's wedding.[/quote]

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