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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP. I wanted to expand on my first post because I left out some information.

This is my child with little self-confidence and some anxiety issues. In high school, she had a history of under-performance in the social department. She was often lonely BUT both she and I know she is not socially incompetent so however nervous, she went to college really wanting to succeed - she did all the right things...joined clubs, leaves her door open, DOES get along with the roommate, volunteers, etc. just like she did in high school without success, so the fact that this is round 2 of no success is devastating to her.[/quote]

I was your DD long ago. Looking back, here is what I wish i did:

- went back and at least finished the year at my out of area college (instead I transferred and did what others suggested -went to NOVA for a couple semesters. I did worse academically and socially it sucked because it was so incredibly difficult to meet people at such a commuter school)

- went to the counseling center at my out of area college and a doctor and got medication for social anxiety and depression

- focused on getting better grades and made myself realize that since I wasn't having the social life I wanted at that exact moment at least I could have the academic life I needed to succeed long term ( bad grades in my earlier semesters hurt my average long term and my chances getting into a grad program later on)

- had a more supportive mom - mine spent too much time give advice and not enough just listening and sympathizing

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