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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My ILs and husband both end up taking twice as long to cook meals as they plan to - and the kids are a bawling tired mess by the time we eat. When I first saw this dynamic, I tried to intervene to resolve it, but what cook wants to be rushed and what kid wants to miss out on a special holiday meal with extended family?

Now I sit back and let it happen. I offer to help once. If I'm declined, then I give the kids milk when they should be eating, [b]but I don't make it my job to entertain an overtired, hungry set of kids, [/b]nor do I make it my job to micromanage a bunch of adults who know what the consequences of their actions will be. They know what they're doing - so I let them, and let them deal with the consequences.

It's really stressful for everyone else, but it's a mess of their own making and it's only manageable for me if I just throw up my hands and accept that I don't control these people. [/quote]

You're punishing your kids because your ILs and husband have poor time-management skills in the kitchen. It absolutely IS your responsibility to entertain/care for/FEED your kids at all times, especially in your in-laws' home. What kind of mother knowingly lets her kids be miserable to make a point?[/quote]

My kids were picky eaters when they were little.  The goal was a pleasant visit.  Confession:  we used to stop at McDonald's and feed them on the way.  And if we were staying overnight, I would bring snacks in case they wouldn't eat breakfast. They would sit at dinner and try a bite here and there but if they didn't like the food....no big deal.  If they liked something they would still eat.

Little kids get cranky if they are overly hungry.  And, no, they will not simply eat whatever is put in front of them.  And, no, I wasn't going to make it my mission to MAKE them eat food that didn't appeal to them.  You got to choose the hills you're willing to die on and that was not my hill.[/quote]

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