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Being judged as being disagreeable is far different than the consequences for women -- unsupported pregnancy (which can be a financial disaster), the extreme judgments made against and difficulty of getting abortion these days, and the very real, high risks of HPV and cervical cancer.  
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The risks just aren't that high. We're not talking teenagers here with lack of knowledge and access to birth control. Anyone in their 30s knows how to obtain and use birth control. There's a readily-available vaccine for HPV, and it also reduces risk of cervical cancer.

Cervical cancer? Really? I've never heard a female friend say she slept with a guy and now she's worried about cervical cancer.[/quote]

Well, that's because it can take several years for a person to get a bad pap smear.  And, like all humans, we usually worry more about things that have immediate negative consequences and discount long term negative effects, especially when weighed against a big short term benefit (like great sex).

I got HPV from the first guy I ever slept with at age 18.  By age 25, I had a bad pap smear that necessitated surgical treatment and chemotherapy.  I have a (male) friend who battled oral throat cancer, likely from oral HPV infection.  I'm sure more of my peers have dealt with something similar, but of course, people don't normally admit when they've gotten an STD and everyone is more sympathetic to cancer than STD.  Even if you don't die from cervical cancer, it can be painful and expensive to treat it, particularly if you end up with one of the strains associated with cancer.

50% of all men and women will get HPV in their lifetime.  Birth control doesn't protect against it and condoms don't fully protect against it, because HPV can be transmitted to areas that are not covered by a condom.  It can also be transmitted via oral sex.

In 2007, only three countries in the world had HPV vaccine.  It is now a required vaccine for youth, but many people who came of age after, say, 2010 are unlikely to have had the HPV vaccine.  It was not recommended for men until recently.  Most men and women over 30 are not vaccinated for HPV because the recommended range for vaccination was only up to 21(for men) and 26(for women).  BTW, there are many many different strains of HPV, but the vaccines only protect against the 4 or so that are the biggest cause of cancers.

It's unfortunate that you don't seem to be very well educated about STDs.  That seems like a basic requirement of a responsible, sexually active partner.  [/quote]

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