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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]After you put the brakes on, he may've wondered if you were into him. And then on your last date maybe something told him that you're not, even if that's not true.[/quote]

Dude here, and yes, that's likely it. It also depends very much on how she "put the brakes on".  Sounds like he very much respected her boundaries...maybe he's just not a creep, and thinks you're not into him.

I had an experience like this with a woman I crushed on for several years; every single time I asked her on a date or tried to engage in an activity, she quickly said yes, and we enjoyed each other's company, but every time I tried to even kiss her, she applied the "brakes".  Well, I don't want to be boorish, and I can take a hint.

I ran into her later at the grocery store of all places, after I'd met and married someone else, and she could barely be polite to make conversation when asking about the new baby.   I am still mystified, but I would kind of avoid her if I ran into her again.  [/quote]

Not to get too graphic, but....basically when he tried to take my underwear off I kind of shifted and pulled the underwear back up.....the other detail being I had my period and while generally that doesn't stop me from doing anything, I felt it was less awkward to keep my underwear on than tell him or bleed all over his sheets.... I think he took that to mean not to go anywhere in that region which wasn't what I wanted - I basically just wanted any touching to be over my underwear - but I didn't really communicate that well - I think he thought I was just generally pushing his hand away.[/quote]

I am the PP you are replying to, and based on what you've said, I really think you need to do as the PP upstream says, "use your words" - just talk to him.  It doesn't sound like you're actually averse to getting physical with this guy - you don't have to explain about your period, just tell him you weren't really ready right then, but you are interested.  You can say something like "I think I might've given you the wrong signals".  [/quote]

Thanks. I also left my pants on....don't know if that's an important detail.

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