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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please don't nag other parents for constant playdates - some people go to great lengths to have two kids so they have playmates. When you ask every single f'in day for a playdate with just one of them because your singleton is bored it gets REALLY annoying. 
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You are nasty. Not much more to say than that - just f'in say no, thank you. Your kids are so unlucky to have a shrew like you for a mom.[/quote]

OP, however fervently you choose to pursue the second, please don't turn into someone like the first PP.

The reason to have another child so that the first has a playmate always struck me as odd. I wonder what PP says to her younger child when her friend wants to have a play date? No, you can't go to your friend's house. Tough luck, I gave birth to you so that you entertain your older brother.

When young, siblings fight and constantly experience some form of rivalry. My neighbor has three boys, 1.5-2 years apart. They [i]never[/i] play together. They have family time in the backyard, but unless a parent is there, the boys would much rather hang out with peers. My BFF has three girls. OMG, I literally can't be in her house when her kids are there. The constant fighting is exhausting. When my other friend hit puberty, she'd much rather hang out with boyfriends than had her 7, 9, and 11 year old siblings in tow.

Anyway, if you want a second for the sake of your first, don't bother. It's a crap shoot, and your chances for disappointment at their less than Hallmark relationship are great. Work towards a second if [i]you[/i] really want one. It's perfectly fine to want more of mini yous running around, a bigger family, and all that. But it's totally fucked to bring a new life into the world so that your child may have a playmate. Someday. If they're lucky. It's not like you need a bone marrow donor or something.[/quote]

We didn't have a second child only to provide our first with a playmate, but it's certainly a big perk for us. We do MANY playdates with singletons. Many. And also happily send off just one child at a time for play dates with other children.

But when you have a friend with a singleton who calls you the minute that child gets bored. Every single day. Just to send over one of our children (leaving our own child "bored"), then it gets old. If you want a constant companion for your kid at least be willing to take siblings some of the time. 
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I'm the PP, and I don't disagree at all. I also don't think of play dates as a way out of boredom. If your child is bored, she somehow needs to get out and do other things more. It's up to you to figure out how. The bonus will be meeting even more kids.[/quote]

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