Reply to If you're a DW who kept her last name

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "If you're a DW who kept her last name"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can someone please let me know the best way to address mail to the family?

For instance  if sending to the family of Jane Smith and John Miller should I write:
 The Smith-Miller Family
or
  The Miller-Smith Family

I have several friends where wife kept maiden name that we send Christmas cards to and I never know if I am addressing them appropriately.  Thanks.
Thanks.[/quote]

The Family of Jane Smith and John Miller?

[/quote]

What if the kids are Millers? Is it then Miller family and Jane Smith?

Wouldn't Miller-Smith Family mean their names are hyphenated? Would it be Miller and Smith Family? [/quote]

We go by the Miller-Smith Family (or the Smith-Miller Family, I don't think the order matters).  People don't seem to be confused at all.  And that's how I send out cards to families where the parents have different last names.  If they have kids, it's the Smith-Miller Family.  If they don't have kids, I write John Smith & Jane Miller.  [/quote]

Not everyone hyphens their name. So, to me that is just as bad as calling me by my husband's last name. Its very individual.  Our child has two last names and it is not hyphened so he can drop one later.  I hate when people hyphen his name.  If I wanted it that way, I'd do it.  Just say to the Miller Smith family.[/quote]

Really? You give women who keep their names a bad name.  If someone makes the effort to address your kids and family by remembering both names, you are going to get mad if it is hyphenated?  That's totally different from people who just forget your name and only use your husband's.  
I say this as someone who did keep my name and my kids have a hyphenated name.  Sometimes it gets messed up and the last names are switched.  At least they are trying.[/quote]

The difference is you choose to hyphenate your child's name.  I did not and I'm tired of everyone hyphenating it.    At that point, just use one last name.  You do not create new names.  I'd rather go by just my husband's last name than someone making up so silly hyphenated name.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics