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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This list actually makes you ladies look worse than the men you were with. You lot have really shitty judgement.[/quote]

More interested in getting that ring by a certain age.[/quote]

No, most likely was told "relationships are work" and thought that accepting their SO's flaws were part of that "work". Or didn't realize how those "little" things are really the tip of the iceberg for bigger things. Seems silly to reject a guy because he lies about taking out the trash. Don't realize that it was a sign that he would rather lie that have an uncomfortable conversation. [/quote]

[b]Why would him not taking out the trash be an uncomfortable conversation?[/b]

I agree this is at least equally as revealing about the women as it is the men. Very few of you will own up to that though, and instead blame it on every other "cause".[/quote]

It was the tip of a very large iceberg. He couldn't just say, "No I forgot to take the trash out" because 1) it made him feel like a failure and he wasn't pulling his weight and he took every negative or perceived negative very personally and 2) unknowingly, he was putting SO in the position of 'mommy' and he didn't want to disappoint 'mommy' or be punished by 'mommy'. So like a 15yo, he would just lie or get squirmy. It ended up being that every major decision, he didn't speak up for fear of disappointing 'mommy' that he would just agree to it (after a little push back, then roll over). So he was unhappy for years (hated the house, the location and having a baby) and hid all his feelings behind lies. The he was a rebellious, moody teenager for a year and finally the affair (with someone 15 years younger) came to light. So in this case, the unnecessary lies about little things were just a sign of bigger problems. [/quote]

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