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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Anyone getting married should assume that there may be a point in time where they have to carry the load financially for the family.  That being said, I think that its much harder for a woman with children to be the main breadwinner.  Even if a woman WANTS to lean in and have a demanding, high profile career, she will always have to battle the assumption that her husband is the main breadwinner, that she will stop putting in the same level of effort, or that she will eventually stop working to stay home with the kids.  IMO, once a woman has kids, she is immediately "mommy tracked."  On the other hand, men with kids are taken more seriously in the workplace, because its assumed that they will work harder when they have a family to support.

I work full time as an attorney and my husband and I have an 18 month old son.  Since I had my son, I have been on several interviews, and I have been asked inappropriate questions about being a mother in about two thirds of them.  In a final round interview, I was asked if I have kids, how old my son is, and if I have day care covered.  The interview also went on to tell me that his wife stopped working once they had their second kid. I'm sorry, but there is NO WAY he would have brought this up if I were a man.   I did not get the job.

I NEVER got questions like this when I was unmarried without children.  [/quote]

1. I've watch both of my sisters get married and then begin having children. both of them told their employers that they were not going to stay home after child birth. Each of them stayed until they gave birth.... took FLMA leave... then on their first day back gave their notice. While I understand that they wanted to stay home with their children employers know that a significant portion of the time as woman will stay just long enough to keep medical insurance and then get FLMA and paid vacation.

2. everyone thinks their plight is worse than the other. While I know you want to think working women have it worse women get a lot of perks being in the work force... especially when they are younger.[/quote]

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