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[quote=Anonymous]Op,
I also have a 6 year old with ADHD and very old school parents.  They spanked all of us growing up (and we are all well adjusted adults who don't spank)--that was just the way it was done back then.  They've never spanked my kids but my father has occasionally threatened it, and I've told him not to do it.  My kids really adore them and they generally have a great relationship--I'm not in the boat of those that think this is the kind of thing that merits cutting off ties with your mom.  It really depends on a lot of factors, including your kids relationship with her more generally and whether her attitude is that she'd do it again, or whether she's sorry she broke your rules.  When people get older, they do often have shorter fuses and you need to keep that in mind when your son and she are interacting.
One thing that really made a difference for my mom was reading a basic book about ADHD.  I can't even remover which one, but it was on my coffee table and she picked it up when she was bored on day. She immediately recognized my son and I think it all just sort of clicked as an explanation for why he is the way he is.  Since your mom is getting some really bad info off Fox, maybe you could feed her some real info that wouldn't help her understand?  She's using the outdated and ineffectual tools she has (punitive discipline).

Also, I'd say another thing that made a difference for my parents is seeing the difference when he's on medication.  I think it really highlighted for them that it is a medical problem.  Of course, that can be non-pharmacological solutions to medical problems, but the effectivelness of the drugs sort of makes it obvious.

Good luck!  I hope you find a solution that works for you.[/quote]

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