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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I actually feel ill reading this, realizing how many people out there don't feel this is rape.

Friend is frozen because that's a normal reaction to being violated - it's a flight reaction when you can't (or feel you can't) physically flee. She's fleeing emotionally and detaching her body from her emotional centre.

Please have her call the hotline. This is not okay.

On another note, I find it creepy that a man would even want sex with a sleeping /unresponsive woman. Says a lot, IMHO, about their general feelings about women. [/quote]

Ok now come on, there is nothing strange or creepy about a man waking up horny and wanting sex. It sounded like he was trying to turn her on. I mean she isn't sleeping with her brother, she's sleeping with her husband. The only strange and unsettling thing in this situation is that the wife didn't say she wasn't into it when it was happening which is misleading on her part. To have sex at night or in the morning it usually take one spouse waking the other up to do it. If I woke up to my DH touching me in an intimate way I would respond with love not fear. Or I would just TELL him I was tired and to stop. The husband is probably very upset because he would never try to rape his wife and doesn't understand why she wouldn't say anything if she wasn't into it. If she was so frozen in fear that she couldn't say anything when the man she chose to marry and sleep with came onto her sexually in their bed, then they are clearly not a good match and should separate.   [/quote]

So when you're awake, your husband immediately jumps to digital penetration? No gentle stroking, no lead in? No kind words, no warm up befo re you "let him in?

He's not letting her wake up. He's jumping in with all fingers before she has a chance to wake up or consent.. That's the problem. [/quote]

I guess I'm having a hard time understanding how this could play out. Does she sleep naked? If she was completely not turned on and was wearing pants and panties then it would be a little difficult for him to start fingering her without her waking up. Maybe he thought she was enjoying it because she was wet? If he really did start jerking off and then just shoved his fingers inside her then yes that probably isn't right. However, it's not like he's a stranger, she should have been comfortable enough to say something to her husband.

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