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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - hahaha, I love the assumptions made on this forum. I actually DO have a good relationship with the woman I report to. I keep all of this to myself. I don't share my thoughts with anyone at work. I am venting on an ANONYMOUS forum, like all of you do. My attitude comes across as very positive at work. Also, I am not at all bitter about my job, having advanced as far as I can in my area at this company. It's perfect for me right now, with young kids at home. The truth is, there ARE unintelligent supervisors out there, and mine is one of them. I can see that this fact really frightens all the supervisors reading these posts. [/quote]

NP here. Maybe you are projecting a good attitude, but you don't actually have a good attitude and that is coming through in all your posts.

Yes, there are unintelligent supervisors out there. There are also very intelligent supervisors out there and you may have one whose talents you don't get to see. The larger issue is how this impacts your work life. I work for a woman who doesn't have the subject matter expertise I have and knows it. I wish she were wiser in my niche field, but she isn't, so I have to do more work advancing my subject matter expertise than if she were more knowledgeable in my area. That said, it would not occur to me to dismiss her as being stupid or useless or unintelligent. I don't know the intricacies of her job and I have better things to do than to dismiss her because she isn't the mentor I hoped her to be.

What I choose to do is to work as best I can with the situation I have. I tell her upfront what I need and she helps me develop my skills. I don't judge her. I just do my job and remember that not everyone is an expert in everything and I need to work with her to get the job done.

The problem with you, OP, is your attitude. [/quote]

As I said, my attitude is fine at work. I am well liked. What part of venting on an anonymous post don't you understand? [/quote]

Oh, I understand venting on an anonymous board just fine, OP. What YOU don't seem to understand is that people on the same board will respond to your venting and try to help you understand the faults you display that contribute to your need to vent. People here are trying to help you with their responses, and you only seem to care about your venting. That's fine. Buy yourself a diary and vent where no one else will read and react to your words. If you choose to put it out here, you're going to get responses. Clearly, you don't appreciate the responses and help being offered.

Hear this. Your attitude is not "fine". You may be portraying a fine attitude at the office, but you're a fake. You're judgmental and bitter. That is your true attitude and it is apparent from your very first post. Own it, because if you don't, the disconnect between your fake work persona and your real attitude will continue to frustrate you and cause you to think "venting" is an appropriate way to deal with your issues.

[b]Either change your attitude or find a new job. [/b]Those are productive ways to deal with the frustrations you are experiencing. Otherwise, you're just whining and excusing yourself by calling it "venting".[/quote]

I'm not OP but a PP who responded that I understood her position because I find myself in a similar one.  [b]Though I don't think my supervisor is talentless and unintelligent, just not the right fit for the current job and one of those male supervisors who underestimates and doesn't listen well to women[/b], which is not just my perception - my (male) teammates and I have openly talked about it and engage in strategies to work around it.  Things have improved over time as he has spent longer on the project and seems to be starting to recognize and respect my knowledge and contributions, at least a bit, but it is still difficult and frustrating.

So I frequently vent about my boss because it lets me blow off steam in a way that enables me to then deal better with him.  Sure I could find a different job, but the other perks of the one I've got (interesting work, good working relationships with team, lots of flexibility) would be difficult if not impossible to replicate and make it overall worth it to stay.

In some ways it's similar to my marriage.  There are things about my husband that drive me up the wall yet will never change. So I vent about those things to my friends so that they don't drive me crazy and I don't throw away an otherwise good marriage with a man that I love and respect.[/quote]

You're doing it right, PP. All managers have faults, some more than others, and identifying and strategizing to work around them is a productive thing to do. Venting is fine, but you are also actually seeking a solution and not assuming your boss is useless and unintelligent. It's a huge jump from identifying things that make some managers bad to assuming they know nothing about anything and don't excel in other parts of their job.

OP is doing it wrong. She has a very bitter and judgmental attitude towards her boss, and then claims she is well liked at work and doesn't need to change her attitude. That's not sustainable and she is probably not as well liked as she thinks because very bitter and judgmental people generally don't hide it well. Since she doesn't accept that part of her problem is her attitude, her situation won't change. If she gets a new job, she can start over with people she can respect, be happier, and not need to be so mean about a boss and call it a vent without trying to work on the problems.

She accused me of being bitter for trying to help her, so she clearly doesn't have a good disposition outside of work, either.

Frankly, I'm done responding to her, but you make a lot of sense and understand the balance between venting and problem solving.[/quote]

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