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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again. Basically I am married to someone less educated, who makes less money, doesn't do much around the house, won't make any decisions personally and professionally, but then criticizes me when I do. This is a direct contrast to how he was when we were dating.

Maybe there is some truth to the PPs who say women ultimately need to marry up despite their belief they don't. I did love this man. I admired him and his achievements when we were dating. But since we got married I feel like I have become his mother, financially, decision making, etx. But then he complains and yells at me.

I hate this and miss our old relationship. Instead he is floundering at the point in his life/career when he should be peaking (mid-to-late 40s). [/quote]

And had three kids with him.

So what's the part you're leaving out, OP?

Why would you have married him, in the first place?

There's one and only one possible reason:  You're not very physically attractive, and a low-achieving unmotivated man was the best you could do.   If you were physically more attractive, you would never have had to "settle" for such an unambitious man.

Think carefully before you kick him to the curb.   You may NOT be able to do better.[/quote]

Omg this is the OP and I am laughing so hard. Thank you for making me giggle tonight!

You couldn't be more wrong, BTW. I still got it. Total MILF here., even after the three kids.  Lol. Still work out and take care of myself.   Married a guy who put on a good show until push came to shove. Sometimes, unfortunately, it takes years to realize that always giving someone the benefit of the doubt gets old.... And that a person cannot change despite themselves. Although I do not have anyone in the wings as a PP suggested, I have had a few offers. Some pretty serious. And some from men who are much more the alpha types. I would never ever act on it. I am committed to DH and our family. But it does make me wonder why DH doesn't try harder to be a partner with me.

I just wish he would get with the program. I could easily leave him and hookup right away. But that's not me and I would never cheat. Maybe it does make me question things though. It's hard to get positive attention from other men when your own husband who is supposed to love and cherish you is a slouch who whines and complains all the time, doesn't act as an equal or partner. And does nothing to improve your situation or your family. :(

My own mother knows my dilemma and said I was "ripe for an affair." Sad. Not true, but sad. [/quote]

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