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[quote=Anonymous]NP here.

OP, I think you are right to be upset.

First of all, unless you ask for suggestions, it is rude for someone to send you a list of things to get their kids.  Gifts are gifts, not obligations, not orders.

Second of all, I think that part of growing up is learning how to be gracious when people give you gifts that you don't really want.  Parents should teach their kids that, "Auntie X spent her money and took the time to buy you this present, so you should appreciate that someone would do that for you, even if it isn't a present you wanted."

Too many parents don't get why it's important for kids to learn that.  In fact, too many parents create and cater to their kids' sense of entitlement -- that they are entitled to gifts, and that they are entitled to the gifts they want.  It starts young, so it's important that, yes, even 4 year olds learn to appreciate gifts given to them and to say thank you and to understand that it was given out of kindness.

If you dictate what everyone gets your kids, you never have the opportunity to teach that lesson in any meaningful way.  [/quote]

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