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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm surprised grandma let this happen. Over a decade ago, grandma made a list for all the grandkids and kids of what we want. The oldest chose first then the rest of us down to the youngest. Then she started again with the oldest. For instance- oldest grandkid got the silver, then I (2nd oldest grandkid) got the crystal. Oldest daughter got the engagement ring, oldest son got the father's wedding rings.There were about 15 of us and we all found it fair. She marked the bottoms of items with stickers with our names on it.

When it happened we all found it morbid, but grandparents really enjoyed giving away their lives treasures and talking about when they'd gotten them and the history of the items.

But if I were you, I would go home more often to visit. My grandparents (both sets) are 1k miles away and I manage to visit 1-2x a year. If you aren't as involved in their daily lives, it's different. I know my cousins who live locally had a much different relationship with the grandparents. Life isn't always fair. [/quote]

This is what my grandparents did. Started with the oldest and worked their way down to the youngest. They tagged each item in the house on the bottom and it was listed in the will. No one complained, everything was equal. For the things that were sentimental and not valuable and were unclaimed, we did a general round robin of claiming the items by text, email or phone calls or in person (depending on the day). It worked and we've remained close.

My parents have already started doing something similar.[/quote]

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