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OP here. I trust my fiance and have no reason to believe he would ever harm a child.[/quote]

Unfortunately the odds are he will (and might already have).  Statistics are not in your favor here.  Until you found out would you have thought his abuser would have hurt a child?[/quote]

What you wrote OP is terrifying. Truly.  I know you mean well. I know you don't want to "punish" your fiancé. But you are in way over your heard. Your fiancé has not even BEGUN the process to deal with this. The fact that he pretends all is normal is the biggest red flag of your life.  There is actually a very high likelihood he may abuse a child.  I am not saying he is a pedophile, I am saying he needs intensive therapy, alone and with you.  You absolutely should not marry him until he either confronts his mom and dad. At a minimum he must tell his brother. I would guess there is a 99% change the brother was abused too.  Please please don't be naive and allow this cycle to continue.  You sound like a well meaning person.  You finance is a victim and not too blame. But you can never ever pretend to yourself or to him that he has dealt with a decade or more of abuse from his own father.   That part is on your OP.[/quote]

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