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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Any woman who is worried about the cost of a ring is not the woman for me. That money is obviously better spent on honeymoon or actual married life.[/quote]

That is why you should get to know these things about the woman you are dating.  I find it hard to believe the the OP's boyfriend doesn't know that she is the kind of girl who cares about her ring.  That probably comes with a lot of other things that he likes about her (cares about/spends her time and money on her appearance).  And now he is trying to get away with less than he already knows she expects.  I get why she is pissed.  He knows what he should do, and he wants to see if she will accept less.  And she can't really say anything because he will think she is materialistic.  Even though she is AND he already knows it.[/quote]

It's not about getting away with less than she expects...he can't afford what she expects, plain and simple.  If that is a deal-breaker she needs to let him know, and not pretend that she isn't materialistic. A responsible adult does not go into debt for an engagement ring.[/quote]

She shouldn't have to say it.  He should just know it.  And he does.  That's why he brought this up BEFORE he even bought a ring.  And how do you know what he can afford?  I am sure that the OP knows his finances better than you do.  I am not picturing a guy who buys his clothes at goodwill and drives a beater car and OP hit him with this out of the blue.  [/quote]

OP here.

My bf is no millionaire. He isn't very poor either. He has a graduate degree and earns okay money. I would expect something in the 5-7k range. It is decent affordable and respectable. He however is looking more at the 1-2k range. Which...I'm hurt he isn't being more generous.  :cry:

I don't know what he can afford, I'm going off what the OP said. He said he can't afford it, and like you said the OP prob knows better than me or you what his finances are like. So if she thought he was just saying that and didn't mean it. I'm sure it would have appeared in her post somewhere. But it didn't, so based on what she told us the logical assumption is he actually can't afford it.  That and the fact that he said they would replace it later when finances were better....that is and usually what is meant by "for now".  What if he wants to buy her a 6k dollar ring and OP wants a 20k ring?  It doesn't have to be someone that shops at goodwill. 20k on  ring is a terrible waste unless you have money growing on trees, which they seemingly don't[/quote][/quote]

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