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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, it probably does have something to do with gender dynamics.  My DH is a SAHD, and we faced the exact same situation when my DCs were in preschool.  Lots of friends in school, but virtually no playdates.  Dh would tell me how he would be talking to a mom at pickup, and she would make plans with another mom right in front of him, not even thinking to include him.  I think it's because most women don't think a man would want to sit around talking about "mommy" stuff, even if he is a SAHD.  My DCs are now in early ES, and the situation is improving.  They have made friends in the neighborhood and just sort of hang out with them, and having a dad host the playdate doesn't seem to be as big of an issue now that kids are older.

I'm sorry about the antiquated views voiced by some of the PPs.  We try to shake it off, but it does get under my skin sometimes.  My DH was a lawyer when we met, and he is just as smart and capable now that he is staying home (but much happier -- he hated practicing law).  Professional success and value as a person are not the same thing, but people in this area find it hard to separate the two.[/quote]

Sorry to hear it was just as tough on your DH. These attitudes maybe an antiquated gender dynamic, but they're still relevant as it's having an effect. Sure, an SAHD will be deficient talking about Mommy Stuff... but there's a lot more other stuff in the world to talk about!

Professional success and success at home are wildly different, and neither should be the measure of a man.... but, personally, I'll put my family first any day.[/quote]

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