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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Although she makes it very clear that she loves me very much, I'm pretty sure my DW is not sexually attracted to me.  I believe she finds me attractive on an aesthetic level (I'm a good looking guy, look young for my age, in great shape, etc.) but after 10 yrs of marriage, I can't remember if she has ever given me that "I want you!" vibe.  She's certainly never said it and she doesn't show it.

We do have sex, and it's pretty good, occasionally great, but honestly, when we're doing it, I feel as if I could be anyone.  She'll be more enthusiastic when she's ovulating but the rest of the time it's pretty clear she could take it or leave it.  If I stopped asking for it, she wouldn't miss it.  In the past when I've given up on sex and stopped asking for it she would very occasionally suggest it when I think she began to worry that she might lose me.

I'm interested to hear from spouses who don't find their DW or DH sexually attractive.  Not because you're angry and bitter or in an abusive relationship, but because somehow they just don't do it for you.

[b]And please explain why.  Have you always felt this way or is it something that developed over time? Is it boredom? Is it because they let themselves go? Is it stress from work, parenthood, etc.? Are you still pining for an ex? Something else? [/b]

OP, you are asking because you are trying to solve the problem I assume.  Thing is, you are unfortunately in a very normal marriage.  Hard to accept, I know.  Ask your male long term married friends how often they are having sex.  Most, if lucky, once a week.  Ask them if their wives love fucking them.  Now look who they are.  Attractive, ambitious, successful, the kind of guy women want to fuck.  And they have - like you have - women who want to fuck them, just not their wives.

This is all saying that you probably aren't the problem.  You are married to a normal woman with a normal sex drive which is a million notches below your drive.  Save the money you are spending on counselling and go away for the weekend, you will at least have better than average sex.

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