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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]But why is it "something you have always wanted to do"?

Adoption isn't something you do. Adoption is a choice you make to build a family and parent a child. Notwithstanding special needs, adoption brings with it challenges and losses for the child. So even a non special needs child is going to have questions and issues surrounding adoption whether they voice those issues to you or not.

Whether you can admit it or not, you are viewing adoption as a way to save a child or thinking you are gifting the child something.[/quote]

Wow, just wow.  Glad we all now know the rules.  Only people who have the right (according to PP) verbiage to express their desires and who do adoption this PPs way are worthy to adopt.

OP, sounds like you've educated yourself.  Now it's time to ignore the naysayers, especially the sanctimonious poster who seems to have all of the answers, and do what you think is right.  When I did my second adoption, I went out of birth order and did the adoption very soon after the first.  You would not believe how many people were negative and who predicted that my family would fall apart and my house would be a major disaster.  Guess what?  It didn't happen.  Sure, there were challenges.  Sure, it took time to help the kids learn to trust, need and love.  Sure, it took time to deal with their special needs (which were known, though it was not possible to tell the level at the time I met them).  But, I have a happy, healthy, bonded, successful family.  If I had listened to the naysayers, I would have lost out on the opportunity to parent a wonderful boy and my kids would not have had this amazing sibling.  [/quote]

Thank you.

I'm in contact with an agency and have been researching my options near me, and we'll see if I qualify and move forwards from there. My sister is already talking about if I adopt the little one he may be able to attend her preschool (which integrates special needs and typical kiddos - she teaches there). I think she's getting to be as excited as I am.

As for the older one there are two schools for the deaf that he could attend, or there are public school programs. Because of language access, a school for the deaf would be idea.

We'll see. I may hear back from the agency that I don't qualify yet. Or I may be qualified and get their files and decide to pursue one, both, or neither of them.  [/quote]

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