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I'm the PP that unknowingly dated a married guy with 3 kids. How can you meet their family if he isn't from around here? The OP said she met his friends.[B] I met my guy through work and knew many of his colleagues. They all knew we were dating (and that he was married).[/b] And even when I asked them if he was married, many just lied to me. We were semi-long distance and only dating a few months. So too soon to be meeting his kids and his Mom lived on the West Coast.

Yes, the techniques you mentioned work for run-of-the-mill cheaters. But super-cheater...they are in a league all by themselves. You really don't know what it is like until you get tangled up with them. They are so-so-so good at what they do. I luckily had my instinct that was quietly trying to warn me. But good liars are so good at lying. They get you all twisted up that you can't see straight. It's not until you are out that you realize "Oh that twisted up feeling isn't LOVE, it's lies".  [/quote]
Op here. See, I think these men's friends must be sociopaths too. How do men just smile in a woman's face knowing their buddy has a wife at home and then go smile in the wife's face too. The guys who covered up for my nasty ex actually baffle me more. Why not just stay out of it, instead of coming to hang out with me? What were they getting out of helping him dupe the women in his life?

The married guy I dated was definitely in "super cheater" territory. He was so caring and supportive. We were making plans for the new year and talking about the future.[/quote]

PP here. Yep, total sociopaths, all of them. My super cheater was so attentive. He was talking about the future. Looking back, it was a schtick for him. He had to work hard for me, because I didn't fall for it. I was leaving the area to go to grad school. I was just looking for a fun relationship until I left. He kept telling me his company was bidding on various contracts. When they won, he would hire me and we'd move to X state or X country so we could be together. I kept telling him his was crazy. But in a different time in my life, I totally would have eaten that up!

As for the wife. I'm so glad I talked with my super cheater's wife. Based on my experience, I would talk or meet with her. If you are worried she is a nut case. Get a throw away Google number or a burner phone. Most likely she is just in a lot of pain and needs to talk with someone who knew her husband in a way no one else will understand. [/quote]

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