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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I was the PP who said your husband is insane. Full disclosure: I should acknowledge that I was mauled by a relative's elderly dog when I was a kid.

[b]Look at your gauze and your wounds and imagine seeing those gashes on your toddler or your soon-to-be infant. [/b]I have scars on my face 35 years after my attack, but my parents and sibling (who saw the whole thing and the aftermath) were even more scarred. And I never could forgive the relative whose dog did this to me, even though she was a saint of a person. Now, imagine how your kids will feel - or your neighbors will feel - if they are the victims who were left at risk by your unwillingness to do what is right.

You seem very proud that you're "equals" in your marriage. Equality does not mean acquiescing to stupidity and recklessness with your children's lives. [b]If you're not willing to protect your kids[/b], I hope that someone who knows your story has the sense to call Animal Control and get the dog out of your house.[/quote]

OP here. I do exactly this. All the time. Every time I move and it hurts. It's all I think about. For the second bold, what is it you are recommending I do? Seriously, spell it out for me in clear language. [b]I want the dog gone. My husband does not. You accuse me of stupidity and recklessness. What can I possibly do here?!?[/b] I'm honestly asking what DCUM is advising me to do. I read over and over the smart thing to do is put down the dog, but there's no advice on how to do that if my partner is not willing.

I AM proud that we are equals. It took years but we have equal share of chores, childcare, and compromises. You don't need to put it in quotes. We make decisions together. I'm not preaching, but simply explaining what I would be jeopardizing if I issued an ultimatum. Dog lives = marriage is good, kids in danger. Dog dies = marriage falls apart, kids are safe. I HATE those choices. There's got to be another option. Please help.

Still waiting on the latest test results. The peeing has slowed down some now that the dog is on a reduced dosage, but it's still every 2-3 hours. Yes, my husband does all of those. He puts towels and pee pads down when he goes to work. I wash the towels when I get home; husband cleans up any messes and bathes the dog.[/quote]

You can LEAVE. You can check yourself and your child into a hotel (friends house? women's shelter? anywhere is better than where you are right now!!), and tell your DH that when he can prove that 1. the dog is no longer a threat or 2. the dog is GONE, you will come back with kiddo.

Or, you could call the police and report the dog bite and the fact that you and your husband are endangering the child. They will require the dog to leave, or the child to leave, and will call child services to make sure it happens.

OR - you can lock your husband out with the dog and tell him he can't come back until the dog is being boarded at a medical facility until it's no longer dangerous. A second vets opinion is necessary anyway at this point. And I think YOU should be at the appointment to get it, so that the vet can actually see all the damage the dog did to you and look you in the eye while they make the recommendation that you take it home and wait things out.

You have options. Really, and truly, you have options. [/quote]

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