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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You seem to have skipped over all the advice given if you only read over and over to put the dog down. Here are some options given:
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Call the vet and "demand" they take the dog, explain again the aggression. Is there a practice manager you could talk to? Review how dangerous this is for you and their refusal to help you.
2. Take your child and go to a hotel, at least until this is resolved more. If you have money for vet visits and 15 pills daily,  and planning on more dog treatment, you can afford a hotel room for a few nights.
3. Call your OB and/or ped and explain the situation, ask their advice and get your husband involved and aware of their suggestions. [/quote]

Yes to these. Plus:

4) Find a new vet with a boarding facility who will take the dog in the interim. Your vet is not the only vet in town.

[quote]I AM proud that we are equals. It took years but we have equal share of chores, childcare, and compromises. You don't need to put it in quotes. We make decisions together. I'm not preaching, but simply explaining what I would be jeopardizing if I issued an ultimatum. Dog lives = marriage is good, kids in danger. Dog dies = marriage falls apart, kids are safe. I HATE those choices. There's got to be another option. Please help. [/quote]

Remember the quotation from Animal Farm about "All animals are equal, but some are more equal than others?" Three observations:

1) Your dog should not get an equal consideration when the safety of your child or yourself is at stake.
2) You are bending over backwards for your husband. What has he done to show that he is treating you *as an equal human whose safety comes before the dog's* in this situation? You sound like you are doing all the compromising. Why is he holding the veto power here? How is he treating you as an equal in the decision-making process? What is he doing to go out of his way to make this situation tolerable, like for example calling around to find a medical boarding facility?
3) If your marriage is going to fall apart if the dog dies because of a rational decision that he is no longer a safe family pet, you don't actually have as strong a marriage as you think.

There is a third option that I wonder whether you have considered: Dog bites wife, husband, or child, potentially causing serious injury, infection, scarring, and God forbid worse. What happens to marriage then? Do you think you will be able to forgive your husband or yourself if the worst comes to pass? Will your marriage hold up under that pressure?

I am truly sorry that you are in such a terrible situation. You sound like you are not only in physical pain from your injuries (not to mention the physical and emotional strain of late pregnancy/caring for a toddler, which is pretty much a hard situation no matter what) but you are bending over backwards to show your husband how much you love and respect his bond with the dog. My concern is that at least from what you are telling us here, he is not bending over backwards to show you and your child how much he loves and respects you and wants you both to *feel* safe and *be* safe.

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