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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not just his clothing, I don't find him that physically attractive. His physical features, complexion, etc.[/quote]

Then I'm convinced if he weren't at.n attorney you wouldn't consider him marriage material.  Seems to me his primary value to you is the idea that he could take care of you and a family, which alone is what makes him marriage material to you.  While I suspect you're probably somewhat shallow[b], I'd encourage you to move on until you find the whole package and let him find someone who views him as the whole package.[/b][/quote]

I agree with the bolded. I do think attractiveness grows more or less as you get to know a person. Even in totally non-sexual ways. [b]I'm sure I think my best girlfriends are prettier than they probably are, objectively.[/b] The two men prior to my current partner who I've had the strongest feelings for in my life took awhile (months in both cases) to grow on me, but they wound up being the two most significant relationships of my life, prior to current partner. That said, after a point, it's either there or it's not. If you've given it time (let's say 3 months of 2+ dates/week) and you still aren't feeling it for them, you aren't going to. But someone else will. So you need to let him go to find that someone else. Everyone deserves someone who thinks they are the total package. And you deserve someone you're crazy about. [/quote]

I do this, too! Once I get close to a girl friend, I start thinking she is so pretty and a total catch (even if others tell me they don't find her physically very attractive, I just can't see why not). [/quote]

Yeah, I have been into women that aren't general viewed as "hot," and sometimes see conventionally "hot" women as not that hot.

Not that I would kick them out of bed.[/quote]

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