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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]quote=Anonymous]
So why would you want someone you obviously think has poor judgement to raise your child? Sounds like MIL's not the only one trying to get something for nothin'. I guess it's true that men marry women just like their mothers.[/quote]
Now that you have gotten that out of your system, you might want to try reading the thread. [/quote]

I did, every painful word. You don't like her, you think she's lazy and gossipy, and yet you want her to raise your child. I get that you're concerned about their future in so far as it impacts you. You are not the only couple on the planet who had parents who didn't plan well. But you also sound like you are a judgmental bean counter. You're doing it to your husband, too, by the way.

[b]Make a plan with your husband about what you can and cannot do for them.[/b] Then share it with them so that they can plan accordingly. If they wash their hands of you, so be it. You don't seem to care much for them anyway.[/quote]

You're not the sharpest tool in the shed if you think people can do other people's retirement planning without any access to financials. You've taken your potshot, which is clearly all you are good for. Stop posting now.[/quote]

I'm not suggesting that you do their retirement planning. You don't seem to be good at reading. I'm suggesting that you and your husband plan out what you are willing to do for them. Then let him share that with his parents. "Mom and Dad, I know that you've been hinting around that you want to come and live with Larla and I when you retire. I just want to be very clear that will not be happening. I'm not sure that your house will be the best for you when you get older with all those stairs. Have you thought about a retirement community? Or downsizing to an apartment with an elevator? We want to help you feel secure that you have a good plan for when Dad retires." If they tell him to f-- off, that's their choice. He can reiterate that he is willing to help them make a plan, but not willing to have them move in.

You still haven't responded to the question of why you would want someone who you think so poorly of to watch your child. I wouldn't dream of having a lazy old woman who watches TV all day and gossips on the phone to watch my baby. Something is not adding up in your story.[/quote]

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