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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you are going to get absolutely slaughtered here, so brace yourself.[/quote]

Oh, I knew this was going to happen.  I am just venting...I don't really care.

[quote=Anonymous]Is your wife in any way experiencing PP depression?[/quote]

No, not a bit.  And she bounced back pretty quickly really.  A few tears and times when she missed him after she went back to work, but she's actually doing really well.

[quote=Anonymous]I'm assuming this is your first child. How is life with the baby and the adjustment going, in general? Is your wife back to work or staying home?[/quote]

We both took leave (she for 2 months, me for one), and I do more of the daily child-related stuff, and most of the household chores (laundry, shopping, cooking).  The baby is easy, sleeps through the night (for since the 2 month mark) and we're actually adjusting shockingly well.  Most people I know with small children are envious and snarky about it.

[quote=Anonymous]In all honesty, I agree with you. She does need to start dropping the weight, but I'm trying to understand if there are other, more pressing factors getting in the way.[/quote]

Time is the big issue - between job and commute, she just doesn't have time for the gym.  I don't think the gym is the main issue though.  I've shifted the cooking and meals, but the lunchtime fast food and ice cream for between meals snacks is packing it on.

For those who say "you're not allowed to judge" - it's not "judging" (I don't say a word to her about what she's eating or her weight), it's just that I can't help but seeing that she is getting bigger, and it's not baby.   And when you say "for a year" - you realize, the longer it's on, the harder it will be to get off - and it will probably never come off.  [/quote]

OK... my assessment: You are doing the lion share of the house work and child rearing while she gets "me time" at work. That means you are doing everything you can to support her. She realizes this and because you now have a child she is comfortable and complacent. She simply knows that she would clean you out in a divorce so she has given up on taking care of herself. She doesn't feel the need to put any effort into the marriage.

The only thing you can do is "man up" and accept her for what she is and love her unconditionally no matter what her behavior is for the sake of the child.[/quote]

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