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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a widowed mom and member of several widows' online support groups.  Quite often a thread will be started, titled "Don't Call ME a Single Mom!".  The discussion that follows is always along the lines of "we didn't choose to be in this position".  Which of course is true, but there's always the underlying attitude that divorced, never married, or SMBC parents are sometimes "lesser" than us poor, widowed, sainted moms.  Can you tell those discussions always make me crazy?

And yes, I miss my husband who was killed in a car accident when our youngest was 14 months old.  I miss him. Every. Single. Fucking. Day.

Identifiers are useful.  You're attending a Mommy and Me swim class or standing around a playground, getting to know other children and their parents.  It can be helpful to know what's what.  The narrative is important, but the story doesn't end there.

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SMC here. I like you. :) And I am so very sorry for your loss.

Like I said earlier, it is the RARE circumstance where how I became a mother really needs to be discussed. When my kid started daycare, I did say that I was single w/no father in the picture, because I wanted to make clear who is allowed to pick up my kid if I wasn't  able to do it, and I was hoping for a little bit of mindfulness during family tree/Father's Day-type activities. (Not that my kid should be shielded from the fact that most kids have daddies -- I just wanted him to be allowed to make a gift for his grandfather.)

But, seriously, it just hasn't come up that much yet. [/quote]

I like you too, and thank you for your kind words.

Life works better when people aren't tearing each other down.  I don't really care if you're married to a man, a woman, never had a spouse, your spouse died, or left you.  If you're at my house and your kid is hungry, I'll feed him or her.  If it's anywhere near 5 PM and you're the thirsty type, expect a glass of mid range Pinot Grigio.  And then we can talk about what REALLY matters:  the latest episode of Real Housewives of NYC.  Or string theory, or Donald Trump.[/quote]
OMG WHERE ARE YOU. I'll be right over. ;) Three days of forced togetherness with my "threenager" has made me really long for adult company, and lots and lots of wine. [/quote]

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