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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It really depends on why MIL is like. Mine is borderline/narcissistic and she says things like this to try to make everyone prove their love and it drives my husband crazy. Also she says "I love you" to me on the phone every time we talk even after my husband asked her to stop because it makes me uncomfortable. It sounds sweet on the surface but she's really cruel at times. I'd rather she stopped with saying super emotional things about her overwhelming love for us all and just started showing it by not being evil... [/quote]

+1.  I clicked on this thread because it sounded like something my narcissistic MIL would say.  Fine to tell a child you think about them every day.  Not fine to ask/expect reciprocity from a child.  I think there's an implied guilt trip for the child that thinks "oh, wait--I actually only think of grandma when something reminds me of her, like an old lady at the store or the bracelet she gave me for my birthday."  Luckily, it sounds like your child was not upset by it, but I think it's a weird thing to say to a child.[/quote]

Children don't give these thing that much thought.  OP is being dramatic and so are you.[/quote]
Funny, that's something a narcissist would say if you called them out on their inappropriate behavior. [/quote]

Actually, my husband was very damaged as a result of his mother's constant guilt trips and suffocating need for attention.  He had a miserable childhood and won't talk about it even.  So children may not give as much thought, but they can be damaged by it.  I say this as someone with a very loving relationship with my family--we say I love you all the time.  I didn't mean to say that the MIL here is necessarily like my MIL (I hope not!)--we all say dumb things sometimes.  But I don't think OP was wrong to think it was weird.  How weird it was can only be judged in the larger context of the MIL's actions.[/quote]

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