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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First - You aren't Indian so you can't properly take care of her DS. Second - She had to make sure you are raising her grandkids right bc you aren't Indian.  Duh. How have you not figured that out?  [/quote]
She's not Indian, that's how  :D 
Yes, like I said before - they are deliberately keeping an eye on her. They know she is not comfortable with this schedule and workload and are probably not enjoying their visits very much. But they are determined to do their duty.[/quote]

OP here. Thank you guys! I finally understand why they keep visiting. THIS explanation makes total sense based on how my MIL acts towards me and I don't know why I didn't think of it before. Now that I understand the reason for the frequent visits, can you give me some advice on how to decrease them? Thanks [/quote]

There have been numerous possible reasons to your "why is that" post.  None of which any of us can be sure of since you haven't asked your IL directly.

Yet you latch on to the reason you already feel and that suits you the best. It's what you want to believe.

Your shady way of dealing with an issue (playing the victim) is worse than a nosy MIL.  Grow up and deal with your family like an adult. You refuse to address this in an adult like manner.

(And yes I'm Indian, but still know how to have adult conversations with my MIL)[/quote]

OP here. Well only I know my MIL and if I asked her directly she would just say that she comes her to see her son and grandchildren that she loves so much, be offended that I asked such a question and complain to my husband that I was rude and made her feel unwelcome.

Anyways, you are right that I have found the explanation that suits my situation best and now I am just asking advice how to tactfully lessen the frequency of the visits besides saying 'Oh we're busy this weekend! You can't come over.'

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If it is a worry about lack of exposure to Indian culture, can you find some weekend activity for your children that focuses on Indian culture? What religion are they? Maybe find a temple with youth activities? Language classes? Then you can say, "Sorry MIL, the kids are at thier [IL native language] class this weekend, so another time would be better"? Might be more effective then "sorry, the kids have soccer." [/quote]

Thanks for the suggestion. I think my MIL would say, 
oh I can come to their Hindi lessons/temple etc with them and don't worry we have the other 5 days of our visit to spend with them![/quote]

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