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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I am not Indian. I am an American married to an Indian man.

How do your kids get along with their grandparents? Maybe I am just naive, but I feel so grateful that my in-laws have been willing to come live with us for periods of time even though there is a huge culture clash and I can be a pretty blunt and rude daughter-in-law (as a rather controlling, private, and introverted person) because I feel like it is because they truly love my children. They also talk to my children in their language and cook for them, and I feel like it is a gift I am giving my children and their grandparents, and a delayed gift to myself (insofar as I am modeling to my children how they should act toward their own parents when they grow up).

Not to minimize how hard it can be-- and it's possible your children are annoyed by their grandparents' presence too, if it is restrictive or nagging-- but I think trying to come up with sly ways to discourage these visits and ulterior motives your in-laws may have for coming frequently is maybe not better than simply saying to your husband that you need to put a limit on their visits for your sanity or need to figure out a rotation system with the younger siblings. (Which, by the way, is something my husband's family did with the great-grandparents. Americans aren't the only ones who like a little respite from extended family!)[/quote]

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