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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your child is almost 6 so your child is in K or 1st grade?  Do you ever intend to go to public school?  [/quote]

Yes, our school only goes to 3nd grade so we'll either change for 1st or second.  My kid missed the school cut off so going into K.  Academically should be 1st grade so we supplement at home.  He's probably be fine this year its affordable so [b]we'd rather give him an extra year to fully catch up and avoid an IEP so he isn't labeled long term.[/b]  And, he's happy there and wants to stay.[/quote]

It doesn't necessarily work this way. I have a 12 year old and I've seen with him and other children with SN that we know--some school years everything goes smoothly and other years, the kid really needs some extra support. I hope that whatever issues your son had are resolved permanently but be prepared if that isn't the case. Finally, an IEP doesn't label a child with a scarlet letter for the rest of his life and isn't something you should be desperate to avoid. That is a pretty negative statement on a board full of people with children with IEPs. [/quote]

+1. Please come back and update after your child has finished K. [/quote]

He's already passed all the academic markers for K and some of 1st and 2nd, so that's not an issue.  The bigger concern will be middle school if there are still some language deficits.

Special needs in some areas does not always translate into issues across the board as some are making it.  The topic at hand is can OP child with mild SN be ok at a private.  It is not about a 12 year old or even an 8 year old.  It is about a 3 year old who has the potential to catch up.[/quote]

Issues do not have to be academic.  My 8 yr old never had academic issues.

Does he have friends at school?  Does your child participate and is he fully engaged in the classroom?  When there are group activities, is he a participant or is he off in a corner by himself?

Our public charter provides excellent supports for my kid's social communication issues which a private school won't since DS does great academically if they'll recognize his issues at all.

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It really depends on the school - most privates will not but the one we are at did for my child.  My child has several good friends, does participate and does engage in group activities (he's never in a corner himself but if any child is, the teachers step-in and they tend to build the classes around each child having at least one friend in the classroom).

It really depends on the diagnosis and actual needs as to where they'd do best.  I don't think my child would have done well in a large public school classroom even with an IEP and supports.  But, for another child, I do think that environment would be best.  If OP feels her child's needs are mild, then either school can work.  For us the difference between 3 and 6 was huge.  At 3, no way would my child survive a public school.  At 6, probably would be fine.[/quote]

You are very lucky that you found a private school that serves your child so well.  Good luck and hope it stays that way.

My child is at an immersion language school, Mandarin, where he was doing great in prek4, K, and 1st.  The charter is 100% Mandarin in prek and DS had zero exposure to the language prior.  DH and I don't know it.  He has an IEP for ASD.  No behavioral or academic issues.   Everything going great.  Starting in 2nd, we had a lot of behavioral issues.  Not at home, just at school.  He had a new Sp Ed teacher with zero experience as a Sp Ed teacher and a "brittle" personality (she didn't get along with many adults either).  DS behavior got so bad the school was talking about giving us public funding for private placement without us even asking or filing for due process.

Anyway, before funding us the school has to bring in a behaviorist for a FBA/BP  - part of the administrative process in getting funded - and everything became good again so much so that DS no longer needs the behavioral plan after 3 months.

I know had we been at a private school even the very good one we turned down for our charter, we would have been "counseled out".  Most private schools don't have the resources or incentive to provide this kind of supports and services.
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You've posted about your experience and its very unfortunate but its a bit different than OP.  We would never have considered a language immersion given we knew we could not provide the support and the areas our child struggled in would make it hard for them to be successful in a program that was an immersion.  He clearly needed simple, straight forward traditional teaching.  And, even so based on your post, your child did great early on, so by OP topic, hers can do well anywhere.  It sounds like the issue you had was a poor school and teacher fit, which is a bit different than OP questions or others experiences.  The private school, given you had a behavioral issue, may have been better for your child if he had the right teacher who understood and was able to manage his needs.  Also, ASD isn't something outgrown and as a child's needs change, so do their academic, home and other needs.  Not all kids who have delays, even severe delays are ASD and its frustrating that it is the fall back assumption.  While who knows what the future holds, bottom line is most kids can do well in either public or private depending on the teacher, supports provided, outside resources available and parental involvement.

At least at this point, our private is more than able to handle our child's needs which at this point are catching up and pretty similar to his peers.  If anything, I need them to speed up the academics to keep him at an age appropriate level given he had to stay back a year due to the age cut off.  I can see him acting out as he's bored and knows what is being taught as they are teaching to the children who aren't getting supports at home/need foundation work vs. those who have that strong foundation and ready to move forward.  The ability of more individualized teaching is the only reason we will not stay longer at our private.  Our school can do it but chooses not to.[/quote]

That is not what I am saying at all.  My son DID NOT have behavioral issues, was better behaved than most NT classmates, until 2nd grade.  The bad behavior lasted about 4 months until the school did a FBA/BP.

My point is the same as yours, that kids can change especially younger ones and just bc you have a well behaved 3 or almost 6 yr old does not mean that you will ALWAYS be issue free and that public schools are better able to deal with behavioral issues than private.[/quote]

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