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[quote=Anonymous]Having lost my husband to cancer exactly one year ago today, I can't imagine marrying again or even having a relationship with some other man. He was my first and only, and quite honestly the thought of someone else even touching me is repulsive. He was my bestbfriend and we supported each other in so many ways for 40 years.

As far as older men remarrying, many are looking for a "nurse or a purse"...someone to take care of them in their old age or someone with money.

Also, there are more older women alive than men, so men have a better chamce of finding someone new. Men statistically die sooner than women, so the male:female ratio is affected. Slim pickings for women.

Being alone isn't so great; I don't feel liberated by my husband's death. In fact, I feel more strapped to responsibilities because everything is MINE to figure out now, and I hate it. (And I am a professional with a good job and wasn't financially dependent upon him; this is all just very, very stressful). So, those of you in your 30s or 40s or 50s who might think you'll feel so free if your husband dies, won't know the horrid truth until it happens to you. Unless, of course, you're in a rotten marriage and don't believe in divorce, thus fndng a spouse's death your path to freedm.

Finally, I hate that word "widow" with its images of black, ugly, old spiders spinnng webs. Time to abandn that ancient label in favor of something like "surviving spouses". 
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