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[quote=Anonymous]To be honest, I'd be wondering what's going on. Is OP's husband being set up to fail somehow (e.g. being put in charge of some huge German war munitions in March 1945, or being made CFO of the company right before the CEO/former CFO know there's going to be some huge accounting scandal?) Worse yet, is OP's husband going to be asked to do something illegal 6-18 months in once he's used to his shiny new house/car/mistress?

More benignly, it could be a combination of an old college friend + being underpaid at his old job.

[quote=Anonymous]context matters.  Are we talking going from $90K as a government schlub to $270K as an association or non-profit "executive?"  But still living in Gainesville and riding the MARC train 2.5 hours per day?
Or are we talking private sector near-executive to executive and comp near $1M???

Totally different lifestyles and intra-family dynamics.

-- pp 10:32[/quote]

To be fair, if he's taking the MARC from Gainesville that's an hour of driving he doesn't have to do ;)

And he could move from Gainesville to Fairfax if he so desired. But the dynamics are essentially the same as you outline, as opposed to suddenly making $500k and up in the private sector where the dynamics will change.

[quote=Anonymous]Not saying the new SAHM and her "executive" husband are not worthy, but I bet there is a equal or more worthy female that got passed over so her DH could take the "executive" position, because the company figured the female would also quit working when her own DH gets promoted to an "executive " position.  On another long thread, people talked about SAHM with advanced degrees choosing to quit work and this is what happens.[/quote]

But you *are* saying they're not worthy, assuming without any basis whatsoever that OP's husband didn't deserve this promotion.

[quote=Anonymous]No more clarification from OP?

I'm thinking maybe there has been some sort of misunderstanding here.  OP thinks something big happened or it was exaggerated by her DH.

As previously pointed out, no one who was at the near exec level (VP, senior director) triples their income in one move with a promotion.  It's also inconceivable anyone at that level could be as clueless as OP.

I think OP's DH worked in some sort of government, quasi-government or non-profit position (let's say Director of IT) at $100K and just took a job with some sort of shady start-up or risky venture and he was sold a bill of goods (base + bonus "target"). Given OP's lack of ability to write clearly, language and cultural issues may be part of the misunderstanding with DH at his work.

--pp 10:32[/quote]

Hmm, I didn't think of that (OP taking the most optimistic bonus projection and assuming it's her husband's base salary.) Also, IT Directors would be making more than $100k at all but the tiniest of shops.

[quote=Anonymous]It goes both ways. I've had a lot of success and am grateful for my solid moral compass. There are so many married women I see behaving like cats in heat.[/quote]

Since this is anonymous...

I'm a wealthy sahm and my social circle is mostly wealthy sahms and honestly more of them are having affairs than their husbands. In fact been here 15 years and maybe have heard of 2-3 husbands cheating. I know twice that many wifes cheating right now.

YMMV[/quote]

To be fair, the husbands probably have more places they can cheat, and are less likely to share their knowledge of cheating with you. Once you hear about it, the wife has already found out, and has decided to (1) move on, (2) divorce, (3) milk it for another vacation to Aruba, or (4) stay married and become bitter about it. [/quote]

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