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OP never mentioned what her man does or how much he makes yet she's been called names for having concerns about his earning power and lack of ambition. If anyone is being obtuse, its people like yourself. Clearly she's not out for his money or else she wouldn't have given him the time of day![/quote]

Then she should go out and test the market, [b]see what kind of a "high flying" career sex with her can attract[/b]. It's, you know, having integrity. Instead of coming here and bitching about how he has little ambition. That's like me dating my wife, but bitching how her tits aren't big enough and her ass isn't tight enough.[/quote]

Those are your words. she didn't say the man had to be a CEO. A man who makes 30K doesn't make enough for me to consider dating. It doesn't mean that I'm after someone earning 300K either (I'm not). I have a career and always will, but I'm not interested in working harder to compensate for a man who lacks ambition. I was happy at my first job out of undergrad at a non-profit making 28K. I left because it wasn't enough money to live decently in this area. I would expect the same from my partner. [/quote]

OP here. That's what I mean exactly. I don't need my SO to be a multimillionaire CEO. I just feel like given our plans of wanting to live in this area and raise kids here he needs to be bringing in more than just 60k a year. It wouldn't matter if I could see that he'd make much more money in a few years but I don't think his field (risk management and compliance) will necessarily do that. This area is very expensive and I've seen people adjust career goals to better position themselves to live here. Change careers; get another degree; switch to a more lucrative friend etc. every time I've suggested something he is very resistant and then talks about so. and so. Is too expensive to do.
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