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DS is more nerd than jock. He is into science and superheroes. He is also a regular kid with some social quirks.  He doesn't have a passion for any sport, though he does enjoy it when he is out there, as long as he isn't being teased.  He would always choose video games over going outside to play. We have had him in a variety of sports for good health habits, social opportunities and to see if there is a sport that he might enjoy.  This summer he is in a very non-competitive sports camp. The camp has lots of non-sports activities.   He has complained about getting teased and picked last for teams, and is now being excluded from games organized by other kids.

DW thinks that it is cruel to keep putting him in sporty environments, and that it will negatively effect his self esteem. I think it is important for DS to maintain a baseline, even if low level, relationship to sports, and to help him improve, rather than pull him out altogether. I have no fantasy of him being great at sports. I do think that sports are an important part of being a well-rounded person, and that we need to expose him to regular physical activity and the lessons to be learned from sports.

Anyone BTDT?[/quote]

I agree with you. Have him choose a sport and agree to stick with it for the full season. Encourage and praise him for every little triumph he has, get as involved as you can, especially supporting him.

Don't do your child a disservice by allowing them to form lazy habits and social awkwardness so young. [/quote]

This very last sentence and the attitude it expresses is exactly why team sports are unnecessary and how tue everyone must do team sports or be a loser attitude is so damaging.

People who do not do team sports are not lazy and awkward.  You have a poor attitude.[/quote]

You have poor reading comprehension skills.  I didn't say people who do not do team spots are lazy and awkward. OP was voicing concerns about his son needing physical activities and being socially awkward. My suggestion was to have the child choose a sport and make a pact to stick to it and for the father to really get involved with him and make it is supportive and fun as possible.

So show me where I said anything about competitive spots, loser attitude or that people who don't do team sports are lazy and awkward? I'll wait.[/quote]

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