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[quote=Anonymous]So the other thing is that people so far from the child - rearing phase often misjudge what is reasonable and appropriate for young kids. They forget *how* young little kids are. My dad moved in with his girlfriend (now wife) who we did not know and her adult sn daughter. We agreed to let him have our then 5yo but we hadn't been to the house and didn't know her well...oh and, we didn't know he had moved in with her until they were practically diving off. So my one request to him was that he just not leave DS with anyone but him until we drove down to pick him up and met everyone, got a sense for how they operate, etc. Well, we chatted with DS and, without probing, he let us know that he and the adult sn daughter hung out in her room (upstairs) while the gf was downstairs and my dad ran to the store. The sn daughter is much more capable of taking care of herself than he is, but not a suitable person to care for a child and, now that I know her well, I can say is pretty likely to make a bad judgment call about kids, but not with any sort of malice intended at all. The point is, I asked my dad not to do one thing, and he did. And three years later, he still cannot take my DS to his house. I know that he won't respect my wishes, which I have bc I know my child the best. This was not the only time, but the time that stood out and was the final straw. We now invite them here and they are welcome anytime. I love my dad and even his wife, but they just have different ideas about safety, hygiene, diet and schedules when it comes to kids that I can't get past enough to let them (there is a younger one in the picture too) spend a week in another state with them. [/quote]

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