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[quote=Anonymous][quote][quote][quote]Wishing that this particular woman in your story behaved differently is one thing, since you know she isn't getting what she wants, but why in the world do you wish people were less promiscuous overall? That is what sounds offensive.[/quote]

Be offended all you want. Promiscuity cheapens sex, like it's a cup of coffee, instead of this great connection between two people. [/quote]

+1. I know this is going to be offensive, but for men, sex is a bigger part of the relationship than for women. I've had men I know tell me, flat out, that they do not bother with long term relationships because they can get sex basically whenever they want anyway. I know that is such a cliche, but it does harm younger women, who have a biological clock, and most women do not just want to have sex for a couple months and move on to the next guy.[/quote]

+2, sort of.  Relationships will always be governed by a sort of sexual economics, supply and demand.  If there are 100 girls, and 70 are willing to have no-strings-attached sex, versus 100 girls where 10 are so willing, you will have radically different relationship dynamics.  Of course there will be more pressure on the 30 "straight-laced" women in the "libertine" society to have pre-marital/no-commitment sex (probably as a prerequisite to have any relationship whatsoever) then in the "prudish" society.  There has been a crapton of research on this.  So yes, your neighbors' promiscuity (in the aggregate) may have an effect on your life and I can see a legitimate interest in your neighbor's business!

That said, where I differ from PPs is that I think it is far from clear that eliminating the sigma around sex and permitting (even if not exactly celebrating) women's "promiscuity" is a bad thing.  In other words, yeah there may be more pressure on the 30 in the "libertine" society, but overall the majority of women (and men) may be much better-off and more fulfilled.[/quote]

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