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[quote=Anonymous]I'm not sure why we are all so caught up in this thing called slut shaming. Let's talk about common sense for a minute. 
During the sixties, many feminists thought that women should strive for equality wrt sex. That belief stems from rhe assumption that men and women all want the same thing, and unfortunately, I am not convinced that that is true. Even more, I'm not sure that women can realistically even get the same thing.
Men enjoy sex more than women. Men achieve orgasm much faster and more frequently than women. Women are more likely to have an orgasm with a partner if she feels secure and safe. Women are more likely to have an orgasm with a man if he loves her. So when two strangers are having sex, it is more likely that the man will achieve orgasm than the woman. The equation changes when we are looking at committed relationships. The woman's chances of orgasm go up! Bravo. 
So when we look at cases where women are sleeping with many different men, she has a tremendous risk of disease, see CDC data posted earlier. If she takes that risk, it better be worth it. The problem is, I'm not sure it is worth it most of the time. Often, she is not having an orgasm, if you want to use that as a marker. She is getting attention that she might crave, maybe. She might get some sort of psychological entertainment. But it is unlikely that she is getting the same thing (equality) that the man is getting. He shares in the disease culture plate risk, but he gets to have this fantastic orgasm and his fertility is not impaired by STDs.
What the feminist forgot is that we are biologically different. Maybe what we should have been seeking is fairness. 
The risks go far beyond the disease issue. Risks of violence and pregnancy are also included. I have seen one woman die from abortion related complications (right here in Montgomery county at a safe place), and two rendered infertile. I have yet to see any of my friends who had the babies get their fare share of child support. That is another chapter. Then there is the contraception issue. We pour potentially harmful chemicals into our bodies because we don't have the guts to tell a man to use a condom (I know they can fail but there are many other benefits). Then there are the tubal libations. This is a risky procedure, the doctor is going into you abdomen ladies. A vasectomy is a superficial procedure! If he refuses, it might mean that he is willing to ask you to take a bigger risk on your life, and might have plans for another family down the road (another thread). 
Ladies, stop the madness, let's get real. Men are still getting what they want. Nothing has changed.[/quote]

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