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[quote=Anonymous]OP you said you think your DH knows how you feel about this, but are you sure he really understands the stakes?

Does he know that you feel as though you've made a sacrifice, or does he think you have nothing to complain about because you wanted to mommy-track?  (Does he also think it's unfair that you get to decide when to mommy-track, but he doesn't get to decide when to chase a business venture?)

DH and I are lawyers too and I took the "mommy track" fed job expecting he would stay biglaw, but then he didn't.  After a lot of passive aggressiveness and beating around the bush on both of our parts I've worked really hard to understand where he is coming from and be supportive but I've also explained to him that our old lifestyle (me doing most of the cooking/cleaning/childrearing) was something I took on because he was working longer hours and making more money than me, NOT something I took on because I'm the woman.  It's a process, but things are getting to be a lot more equitable at home, but they never would have been if I hadn't directly addressed the issue.

It sounds like your DH, unlike mine, is financially unstable, so taking steps to make more $$ yourself makes a lot of sense for your family, but you should demand that he pick up the slack at home and be specific.  [/quote]

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