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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, that got rude and unhelpful quickly. Thanks to the early responders. Complicated issue and like I said, I am not at the point of seriously considering divorce. But, the cycle of "this is the one, now we can just be stable" and then six months later, DH changing his mind, cannot be ignored at this point. I am having trouble mustering the strength to support him through more transitions. I really would be unable to quantify the hours spent discussing and coaching him through these, often to the detriment of my own work, which, for better or worse, is the most stable thing we have. Obviously I realize I can't just jump back into biglaw and make partner tomorrow; I believe I have described this as a risk several times and discussed potentially switching roles where I am now to make a bit more money. I also don't resent him for taking away my chance at "greatness"; I just wish I had stayed in a higher paying job. I would be happy to be a "senior attorney" or whatever it is when you kind of stay at the law firm forever as a senior associate at this point. I don't need to live in a mansion or drive a fancy car; I just would like some stability and not to worry about money a lot of the time. There just seems to be a lot of unnecessary stress in our lives, and I am lamenting my lack of foresight and considering how I might minimize the stress through my own actions going forward. Therapy doesn't really solve financial problems, although I agree it's always helpful to talk things out. Also, I am not sure therapy can erase resentment when you have to continue to live with someone who is not pulling their weight by anyone's standards. I'm not sure how calling me an asshole for dealing with what I suspect is a pretty common problem really helps. [/quote]

What is your financial situation?  Are you making sure you aren't spending too much money anywhere?  [/quote]

No, I am spending money like water on designer clothes and a luxury SUV. Bad idea? Just kidding. [/quote]

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