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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I assume your friend no longer excludes people because they don't like the Exact Same Bands, is only 5'11", needs to make $200k, is three years older, etc.

No, women don't deserve some guy who asks for nudes in line 4 of a conversation or who cant stoo going on about their demon ex from six years ago. But after 30, if you are serious about marriage, a serious examination of priorities and the such is needed. [/quote]

You speak truth here. I have a good friend who is attractive, intelligent and funny. She is 35 and wants to get married, have kids. She has been doing online dating for about 10 years off and on. She desperately wants to find someone great, and she deserves someone great, but she has expectations that are skewed away from reality.

She has very key, limiting specifics for every category (e.g., musts = Catholic, 5'11+, advanced degree, holds job in one of a few specific career fields, never engaged or married, no kids, wants 3+ kids, no more than three years older than her, etc.) and thus, her pool of potential men, within these parameters, is very, very small. She is a great girl, but she is rigid with her must have list, that it counts out probably 90% of people out there. She says she knows that what she wants is limiting, but she doesn't think she should have to compromise. I get it, but I think she will be online for a good deal longer if she doesn't change at least one or two criteria. 
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I agree, and I'm a single woman who does NOT think one should ever have to settle for a partner they don't feel enough for, or will have major lifestyle incompatibilities with, but her list is ridiculous. She isn't looking to fall in love with a partner, she's looking to conjure someone into existence out of her own imagination. I can see 2 of her criteria that are valid (Catholic, and no kids from previous relationships). MAYBE 3, if she just truly isn't attracted to anything but tall men. 
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