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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a teen, my mom's policy was that it was okay that I drank in moderation but that I should never, ever drink and drive.  She told me that I could always call her to pick me up at any time of night and she would do it.  She would tell me that every time I left the house to go anywhere.

I had a party for high school graduation at my house and [b]my mom allowed drinking but took everyone's keys[/b] and wouldn't let them leave unless they told her who was designated driver and she made sure they weren't drunk.

For the reasons stated above (kids lie and will just lie to you), I do not agree that telling  your kids not to drink is the right answer.  You need to teach them to drink responsibly.  I think my mom was pretty succesful in doing that with her methods and I plan to follow a version of them.[/quote]

Responsible EXCEPT I still would have a huge problem with this unless she had communicated to all the other parents that she would be allowing drinking.  This is where we've had many threads and battles on DCUM.  It's great that your mom was taking care of the kids who were drinking, but it's not okay that she allowed it in the first place without consulting the other parents.  I'd be pissed if my kid were one of the guests.[/quote]

As a parent now, I think you're probably right that she should have had some other buy-in from the parents.  (She may have?  I honestly can't remember).  And as a lawyer now, I would never do this because I know I'd risk liability.  But the principle she was getting at - teaching me to drink responsibly and making a huge deal about NOT drinking and driving are what I think she got right.  Of course, I still drove a few times when I shouldn't have but I think I was pretty responsible over all and as compared to some of my friends.

The scary thing for me, as a parent, is that we can teach our kids perfectly and they still might screw up.  There is no getting it 100% right.  And if my kids don't screw up, some other kid might.   My first cousin was killed in a car wreck in college by a car full of drunk boys (also college students).  She was not drinking and was going to pick up a friend who needed a ride home because the friend had been drinking.  My cousin did everything right and she still died.[/quote]

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