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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Day 2 - slightly better...

Regarding snacking; I try not to "ruin" meals with constant snacking, but I stuffed my purse full of granola bars (brought from home bc I knew what this place is like), and junk and just threw food at my kids every time they chirped. I also held string on meal time for lunch - SIL had a totally hissy fur bc it was early and wouldn't eat anything, but, hey, my kids ate and were great.

They got mad at DD once for climbing on the chairs in the kids shoe area at Nordstrom... I squeezed her arm really hard to get her to stop bc sil and MIL were totally escalating.

Also got told I'm "so strict" because we limit TV. Again, this was said while the children were watching a 2 hour movie.

Hung out with DH's aunt and uncle, who are more reasonable than my in laws.

We did a year of couples therapy before getting pregnant with our first child - [b]the theme pretty much centered around DG and the relationship with his parents being unhealthy for our marriage.[/b] He went back into therapy alone 2 years ago for a few months. Both times benefitted our marriage as a whole, but DH felt it was a waste of time. He has said no more.

[b]He's a fairly good guy to be married to 80% of the time. 10% of the time we're at odds over his family and visits like this and add another 10% for usual couple stuff.[/b]

Again, a sincere than you to the people who continue to kindly offer advice and support - thank you for the reminder to remain polite and calm. Super important.

Also, being busy has been terrific - I booked swim lessons at their local pool, and while the lessons got canceled, I got to have someplace to take the kids for a couple of hours.[/quote]

I am OP of the thread- MIL moving 5 minutes away. Reading through this for the first time is kind of giving me chills/a look into the future unless something changes...the unhealthy relationship, lack of boundaries, MIL ordering everyone around, DH giving in to placate her, etc.[/quote]

Op of this thread to you - I'm not sure we'd still be married if we lived anywhere near her. Just being honest. [/quote]

I believe you.[/quote]

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