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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op speaking. I've decided against a ONS. I'm not seeking a relationship but I think a ONS is just too risky. I'm worried about stds and other important stuff. I think the most ideal is a friends with benefits situation. Someone to show me around DC and have sex. I definitely want to experiment sexually but the safest route would be a summer thing. [/quote]

Had ONS (or more casual relationships) and 'friends with benefits'... (ok, big slut... was just single a long time) ...  now married to man who knows I had a life before him but doesnt care about the details.  I found FWB often to be the worst b/c at some point you are pseudo-dating & end up basically being treated poorly (if you're counting on 'friend' to show you around - or 'summer thing' you talk about is actually pseudo-dating).  Most guys are not rapists.  Unfortunately, most of them are not particularly good in bed either.  The only (minor) STD I got in my life was from an actual relationship.    [/quote]

Exactly.  FWB can get tricky emotionally, because I think generally there's this expectation put out there about "well women want to be in relationships and men don't" so when you're sleeping with someone repeatedly, even if you don't want it to turn into more, you start feeling kind of weird about it because all that pressure has been put on you.

ONS can also be tricky though.  I think the most important thing is finding a dude that is going to treat you well and be respectful- at the FIRST sign of pushiness, you cut and run, that is my cardinal rule.  And that's basically in the getting to know you phase- you can kind of get a feel for how a guy acts.

Anyway, there's risk present in both but I do think a good FWB relationship, with someone who is great in bed (as you said, that is unfortunately very rare to find in a guy) is a good way to get your feet wet [/quote]

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