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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have two teens-one boy and one girl.  The girls are by far the more sexually aggressive and show far less respect than the boys from what I am seeing and what I am hearing from other parents.  I think it is too easy to fall into the "poor helpless girl" and "disrespectful boy" mantra that we may have witnessed or experienced as teens but that is by no means universal into days society.[/quote]

Well....the thing is that we DO have a problem with men and sexual entitlement.

Have you heard about the study where college and high school boys were asked if they had ever raped anyone?  The boys were all "OMG OF COURSE NOT, THAT IS WRONG, I WOULD NEVER DO THAT!"  But when the questions were re-worded to ask if they had ever pressured a girl for sex, had sex with a girl who was passed out (this is a huge problem, actually), and so forth, the answers changed quite a bit.  Our "society" problem is that people think that men can't be taught not to rape, and that's simply not true.[/quote]

Unless physical force or threats of physical harm are used, "pressuring" someone to have sex does not make you a rapist. It might make you an asshole, but it does not make you a rapist.

(I'm a woman FWIW.)[/quote]

Well, I think you could be right in some circumstances and wrong in others.  The pressuring thing fits in a gray area, in my opinion.

You ignored the other things that were written...guys thinking that "having sex" (let's call it what it really is, though, which is raping) passed out women.   When I was in college, this would happen a lot.  And yes, I would encourage (beg even) my daughter to not drink to that excess.  BUt that doesn't change the reality that a lot of guys don't even view this as rape, and they need to be taught NOT to do this.  [/quote]

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