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Again, [b]you're framing it likes its an active choice someone is making[/b]. We're talking about people NOT being interested in something. No one is thinking, I'd love to have sex but [b]I"m going to withhold it because I don't think we should have sex as often[/b]. Good sex is a lot easier when you don't have young kids and you can just do it. It's a lot harder for many women to get the emotional and physical energy until the kids are more independent. Men act like nothing has changed except what the woman [i]wants.[/i] [/quote]

You're framing it like you are a helpless victim in how you prioritize your own life.
I can decide to have sex, or not. This is entirely MY choice.
If I consistently chose to NOT have sex, resulting in a far lower frequency than earlier in the relationship, and if my partner is unhappy with this reduction, then essentially I have [u]chosen to make my partner unhappy[/u].
If I am "too tired" because I [b]choose[/b] to focus 100% on self serving vain attempt to meet every last whim of my infinitely needy kids, well then I have [u]chosen to give my marriage partner 0%[/u].
Is that fair? Should my partner accept my unilateral decision to ignore his/her completely reasonable needs?
Or, should I invest just a [b]thin sliver of time and effort[/b] (so miniscule that the kids won't even feel a pinch) into sustaining the intimate relationship that brought the marriage together and made these awesome kids possible?
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Whoever posted this should get a divorce, if you haven't already. My DH is unhappy about how infrequently we have sex, but he doesn't hate me. [/quote]

I'm not reading hatred. Just frustration about being low priority to his spouse. [/quote]

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