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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have you thought about the reality of sahm vs the fantasy of it?

Fantasy: Lunch at pain quotidien with your girlfriends and maybe a nice bikram yoga after
Reality: cold cuts at home. Voga is moving dishes to dishwasher.

Fantasy: Tuesday my gym play dates with DS best friends followed by ice cream at the park
Reality: my gym is too expensive, play date at the public park, ice cream truck becomes a nuisance

Fantasy: rock solid ass toned from jogging around in stroller with DS
Reality: exhausted after 3 loads of laundry, cleaning house and chasing kid around. Ass still big.

Fantasy: drop kid off at play based schooling 2x a week. Enjoy a margarita with bff then home for a quick shower and masterbation sash before heading back to pick up kid 
Reality: can't afford play based schooling. Decide on chipotle. Masterbation sounds tiring. Maybe watch hgtv instead.

Just sayin' [/quote]

I lived this life as a SAHM in NW DC and our HHI was $250k.  I still felt like the poor mom among everyone I met at playgroups, parks etc.  
Generally the only moms who SAH in NW are those with a major breadwinner backing them.  It would honestly be very hard to SAH with a tight budget--
the things that keep you sane as a SAH are pool memberships, part-time preschool, trips out for lunch (with and without kids), spontaneous trips for frozen yogurt, classes/sports for the kids, etc.   Never mind all the crazy travel that everyone in NW does--
the trips to the West Coast 4 times a year, international travel, ski trips, etc.  There is a lot of money in the SAHM crowd in NW DC. 
If would be hard (not impossible but hard) to exist in this community and have to watch every spare dollar.  [/quote]

Agree that it depends on your crowd. Even 250 hhi might not feel like enough. 
I do have a sah friend with a dh who only makes 120k living in NW. Her older preschooler kid does a lot of classes but they don't eat out often and don't hire babysitters and they take affordable vacations (drive somewhere, drive to go see grandparents). Plus they live in a one bed condo. A very tight space. [/quote]

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