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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DS, 13, has had a "girlfriend" for a year.  He can call and text her, and they are Google + friends and email-- but we monitor his accounts and have never hidden from him that we are doing so.  He can invite her to our house, as long as an adult is home, but is not allowed to be in his bedroom with her or behind closed doors.   She has also been invited on family activities, like apple picking and the fair, and over for dinner.  They can go to our neighborhood pool in the summer-- but once again, only with  an adult present to keep an eye on things. She's a sweet girl, and we try to facilitate their being friends, but we monitor closely.  We've said "real" dating is for 16[/quote]

Sorry but that is completely inappropriate. If they stay together, they will be banging by 14.  [/quote]

Not in my house, while I am monitoring what is going on.  This is not a they head down  the basement and I see them two hours later situation.  It's a stay in eye sight of an adult one, complete with Duggar style chaperoning-- at home and in public. I suppose I could say no contact at all until 16[b], but I feel more comfortable with kids  gradually earring freedom and learning responsibility. [/b] And in our house, You earn the freedom to go on a "date"-- that is be alone in public, no earlier than 16, and once you've shown you are responsible enough. I doubt we'll ever okay e tended perIons of alone time at home-- or at least before college.

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This, times a billion.[/quote]

Same here!

My rules:

10-12 is still having parties and other things in groups in my house or their friends' houses.
13-15 may "date" in groups: restaurants and other public places, no movies or other dark places.  I offered to allow a dark movie theater, but I'm in the row (maybe three?) behind; I wasn't really surprised when they said no.
16-18 (18 while still living in this house) may date, but if they want to have sex, they need to talk to me.  We will arrange for contraceptives and the two teens (with the other parents' consent, or it's a no go) may have privacy.  Honestly, I'd rather I knew what was going on and where, and so far nobody is old enough AND wants to do so.[/quote]

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